February 6, 2014: LTS
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Toby Silverton, PhD. &
Bev McLagan, PhD.
Silverton McLagan Coaching & Consulting |
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HELLO
FROM LONDON!
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London
continues to surprise us, around every corner you find the
unexpected. We were just out doing a day of errands and decided
to take a shortcut down a side street. Look what we encountered!
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THIS
MONTH'S ARTICLE: My love/hate relationship with time!
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Ah,
February... thoughts of roses, chocolates, and perfume....then I
remember, February is short! Isn’t it hard enough to get
everything done in 31 days, but 28??!!! Come on, whose brilliant
idea was that? I already feel enough time urgency in my
life without feeling short-changed by February. However, (breathe) given that we are under the sway of Valentine’s day I will start with what I love about time...[pause...I’m thinking...]
Ok, I tried, but like many Highly Sensitive Persons I truly have a
love/hate relationship with time. I love the idea of it; hate the
reality of it. I am never comfortable with time, even when I want
it to feel like a pair of fuzzy pink slippers. I look forward to
days off, holidays even, but then worry that I won’t have enough time
to get all the projects and tasks done that I have planned for those
few precious hours (and will I even choose the ‘right’ tasks?).
I love the idea of sitting down to an hour of relaxation only to find
my mind warning me of the work still waiting to be done. I love
the idea of taking a magazine to a coffee shop to have a relaxed browse
(it always looks so good when I see others do it)
but find myself checking my watch to see when I need to get
going. I luxuriate in that extra little sleep-in on weekends,
then torture myself with the thought, “I have wasted half a day” (this mind chatter would dominate even if it was only 8:30 am, sigh). Sadly, time can make me feel like the wolves are at the door.
Actually most of our fabulous, creative HSP clients experience some
form of a love/hate relationship with time. We are great
planners, great organisers, and great doers, but man, are we lousy at
living peacefully with time! Instead we fear it, feel pressured
and intimidated by it, and sometimes even feel paralysed by it.
We chronically struggle to get more and more done in what feels like
less and less time instead of being able to relate to time in a way
that makes the most of every minute we have.
I believe that part of our time dilemma lies in our
dreaming. We create so many fabulous dreams in our heads,
imagine so many amazing projects, goals, and accomplishments...not
beyond the reality of our abilities...but often beyond the reality of
time. We want to experience all we can, we want to be there for
everyone we can, but there are only 24 hours in the day and that just
isn’t going to bend, no matter how many mind-bending ways we approach
it!
So what are we to do with time? Ok, I know you are probably going
to groan...but I respectfully suggest we fall in love with time?!
(Notice the question mark, well that’s because I’m still experimenting with this idea). I think it is possible (very cerebral); I believe it is possible (I have faith); and I feel it is possible (when I touch that timeless place inside of me where all is calm and peaceful).
Yes, it is time to fall in love with time. We need to face up to
our challenges with it, figure out what time means to us, and them
embrace it! This Valentine’s Day give yourself one enormous
gift...the timeless pleasure (not pressure) of time.
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HERE’S
ONE GREAT TIP!
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Decide
what relationship you want to have with time: one where you struggle
and fight or one that is peaceful. Write a reminder to yourself
of how you are going to approach time each hour, each day. For
me, I’m going to breathe out, not look too far ahead, and decide what I
can do in the next minute, then the next, then the next...
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Embrace
Life!
Toby Silverton, PhD and
Bev McLagan, PhD
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